I need advice! (Online dating)?
July 13, 2010 by admin
Filed under Online Dating Tips
How do you feel about meeting someone online? I met this guy on Craigslist and we have just been emailing each other. No personal data or pictures exchanged. We are being respectful of each others privacy. But it went from friendly emails to flirty ones…..not purposely but I think because there might be something. How do you all feel about online talking that may turn into something? And is it really safe? I know you cant always be too sure. But how do you really know if the guy is telling the truth? I guess there really is no way, just have to go with your gut. Help me please!
weird …..
you don’t want to hear this but in Arizona ( where I live) people met online on (craigslist.org) and she was murdered. No matter how people act they can be totally different. I’m sure that’s not the case but be safe. What I believe is online meetin people never works out long time, It works better if you just meet them in real life. But it’s all up to you.
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I honestly believe that any online dating service is a little sketchy. You need to be careful. I would recommend asking him if he would do a video chat, or something to show that he is who he says he is.
first of all can you really date people off of craigslist
second of all if you were just emailing each other you have no idea what this guy is like
he could be old, fat, ugly, married a he she
like you DO NOT KNOW
i would definatley not reccomend meeting this person in real life. it is really dangerous
if you really insist on meeting him though
meet him at a PUBLIC place, talk to him on the phone tell him you are standing by something when he walks over to it get a good look at him while you are in your car far away or something
my friend abuses match.com to the max.. he crushes girls dreams.. he probably goes out and sleep with between 3 to 4 different girls every week that he meets on that site..
it’s fun if you’re into it..
i’m not.
To get to your question.. get to know the guy first, and talk to him on the phone first for a while before meeting him.. just to make sure he’s not a pervert or a serial killer or anything..
first of all exchange pictures online. If you are still attracted to and want to meet this person, get some friends and arrange to meet at a busy place say the mall or starbucks. My husband and i met on myspace. i went with my guts and we are doing great!
i wouldnt trust a person off of craigslists…but maybe personal online dating sites like eharmony. idk its an odd way to meet someone in my opinion. theres so many options out there when you meet someone out in the real world..
meet him first!
Oh, wow, online dating! You can’t date online, you silly girl!! You can only talk. Oh, no it’s not safe, only seeing the person in real life and him seeing you is safe, right? You both know what you look like and where you live, that is really safe, right? Man, nothing is safe!! Don’t be a drama queen, meet the guy if want to or don’t, he won’t jump out of the computer and steal your candy!! How do you know if the person you meet is telling the truth? You can’t, online or not. Best advise? Don’t give in unstill you seen the goods or keep the flirting and everything else on line and be as safe as you want to be. People get hurt when it comes off line, then the girl or the guy is very disappointed. It goes both ways. Enjoy your online romance and take it to the limit, it’s just electronic anyway. Good luck
you need to meet in person so you can see who you have been tlaking to.
wellll iv neverrrr really dated anyone from online except recently but i sure didnt meet him from craigslist. u havent seen his pix yet u talk to him?? he could be anyone!!
becareful.
i guess if ur curious u can at leastttt exchange pictures or something and go from there.
but if that dont workout i met a wonderful man (who’s is now my boyfriend for almost 1yr) on plentyoffish. c o m
its freee toooo and not so creepy like craigslist..
ooh i also want to mention my brother & 2 friends also found their new loves on that site also…((now thats strange to me))
so if mr. craigslist dont workout… dont forget what i said =P
Yes online dating can be unsafe, BUT so can meeting a guy at the supermarket, and going out that Saturday. The benefits to online dating is you do get to email each other back and forth and while he could be lying, so could the guy from the supermarket.
You dictate when you are comfortable enough to send a pic. Guy at supermarket already knows how you look. I suggest you continue to email, and then IM.
If you find you still enjoy communicating with him. Talk over the phone, you can block your number when you call him. That way he doesn’t have your number until you are ready to give it to him. Really listen to what he says, if something bothers you, or seems suspect keep it, in your data bnaks.
Ask him about again later in a different way. Somtimes within 2 minutes of a phone call you can tell you never want to talk to the person agian. For whatever reason, it just doesn’t click.
If after several conversations you are still interested and want to meet, set up a date in a very public area, be sure someone knows who you are meeting and where. If you meet for dinner don’t leave to have dessert some place else.
Make sure you provide your own transportation there and back. You don’t want him to know your address yet. These are all things the guy in the supermarket would know a whole lot faster.
I think online dating is good because you are basically interviewing them without meeting first. You have not wasted the time to go on several dates before realising he isn’t right.
As with any new relationship be guarded, don’t rush, be perceptive, and have fun. Every man is not meant to be anything other than a friend.